The Most Experienced Divorce mediator in North Carolina
Divorce does not have to mean war or going broke.
Divorce does not have to be a bitter war. Sadness, anger, fear of loss and loneliness are, perhaps, inevitable. But the bitterness that poisons communication between divorcing couples is more often the result not of the decision to divorce, but of the adversarial process still used by most people to get divorced.
When divorcing couples feel humiliated and terrorized by each other’s lawyers they invariably hold each other responsible for the things each other’s lawyers have said and done. That anger so poisons the relationship between the parties, that it precludes cordial communication and mutual trust.
Generally, the less contact you have with lawyers and courts, and the more you are able to reach genuine agreement between yourselves on the children, support and the property, the more peaceful will be your divorce.
Most divorcing people can't do it all by themselves because they do not know enough about the technical aspects of divorce and because they may be too upset. But most people can achieve a peaceful divorce by using a good mediator.
In mediation you negotiate to a mutually acceptable settlement. You do not fight. There is no war.
With mediation couples can avoid high legal fees and resolve all the issues of their divorce for a few thousand dollars. Every time two lawyers talk on the phone it costs at least a hundred dollars. Every time two lawyers go to court it costs up to five thousand dollars.
The conventional divorce with two lawyers fighting about everything is an extremely inefficient process that costs thousands of dollars to accomplish very little other than lasting bitterness. With a mediator you can accomplish in an hour what your lawyers could spend months haggling about.
