Thinking about divorce and feeling frightened? Worried about your kids?
Anxious about money? Worried how your spouse will react?
Don't know where to begin?
You've begun the divorce and it feels like it's lasting forever?
You feel that it's out of control? Legal fees are piling up and nothing is happening?
You probably need divorce consulting, divorce coaching or both.
Divorce consultation is expert advice that helps you achieve a good divorce and avoid destructive and bitter divorce, For most people divorce is scary and confusing. You hear horror stories as well-meaning but ill-advised friends and relatives compete to give you bad advice. Too often this advice is destructive because it encourages you to fight. There are so many myths about divorce that many people stumble into bad divorces they could have avoided had someone shown them how to achieve good divorce. In a one or two hour consult you can learn what you need to know about divorce.
Whereas the divorce consult teaches you about divorce, divorce coaching helps you make the difficult decisions. Do I really want a divorce or is it worth yet another try? Do I want mediation or representation? How do we tell the kids? Do I want to try joint custody? How do I choose a lawyer? You have to make decisions throughout the process and coaching can help you make them well.
Most people, provided with adequate leadership, can achieve good divorces in which the parties wish each other well, negotiate an agreement both think is fair and emerge from the process able to cooperate around the children. And most people who end up with angry, costly and destructive divorces could have had good divorces if they had better advice.
After more than thirty years as a divorce lawyer and mediator and after helping thousands of couples, I have a good sense of how the system works. I understand how the emotional process of divorce interacts with the legal process and how a decision in one affects what happens in the other. This helps me identify the situations which destroy the chance of an amicable and constructive divorce and help people make better choices. Where you need to learn about divorce I can teach you. I help you understand the law and how the legal system really works. I can explain the economic, emotional and practical issues of divorce. And when you are struggling with difficult decisions I can coach you to the best decisions for you and your family.
I can provide expert, informed and wise counsel at any stage of a divorce when someone just needs a half hour or an hour of help to decide how to proceed. I can help you avoid the common mistakes very early in the process that sour a divorce before it even begins. I can help you decide whether you want conventional representation or mediation and help you choose the right professional. I can calm you down when you are fearful and excited and interpret legal events that appear scary because you don’t understand them. I can help you develop realistic expectations of your lawyer and help you hold your lawyer accountable. And if you have developed a bad relationship with your lawyer I can help you make a change.
I can answer questions when you have them. You can talk to me for fifteen minutes or two hours, whatever you need. And I can be available evenings and weekends if that is the only time you have. The cost is very modest . Call me with your questions.