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Without Ruining Your Life -
"Sound, helpful, and practical
advice from an experienced lawyer/mediator. If you're going
through a divorce this book should be on your reading list."
- Constance R. Ahrons, Ph.D.,
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Divorced Without Ruining Your Life - A
reasoned, practical guide to the legal, emotional, and financial
ins and outs of negotiating a divorce settlement. . .
What People are saying about this book -
"Divorce is complicated, traumatic,
and potentially disastrous. But there is an easy way to avoid
the complications and the potential disasters: read Margulies's
book. Every page has good advice, and the book as a whole should
be required reading for couples in the throes of divorce."
- Rabbi Teuven P. Bulka, Ph.D.,
"When one first separates or divorces,
there is often a need to absorb every self-help book on the
market. Sam Margulies's Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your
Life offers rationality to what often is a an irrational time
- rationality that is necessary for eliminating the "If
only I had thought to do that." Dr. Margulies's book is
a strong argument for mediation, forming a model for settling
future disagreements following a divorce and perhaps remarriage."
- Irene Varley, Executive Director,
North American Conference of Separated and Divorced Catholics.
"This is must reading for anyone
contemplating divorce and wanting to do so humanely. Dr. Margulies
has embellished what is know with insights from years of experience
as a successful family mediator. His inclusion of chapters about
post divorce relationships and remarriage communicate thorough
understanding of divorce as a process and the need for ongoing
collaboration between households so children are best served."
- Kay Pasley, Ed,D, Professor and
Editor of Family Relations, Director of Graduate Studies, Human
Development and Family Studies, University of North Carolina
at Greensboro.
"Sam Margulies, the veteran lawyer,
successfully demystifies the legal intricacies of divorce allowing
clarity of thought for those in need. Sam Margulies, the master
mediator, then shows those contemplating divorce the most sane,
practical, and least stressful ways to seek it. And most important,
Dr. Margulies, the human behavior expert, speaks to the emotional
needs and differences of the many people who are impacted by
divorce. His ability to construct the most fair and humane results
- always valuing both spouses and children - makes this book
a must read. Mental health professionals should keep several
copies of this unique guide in their professional lending libraries!"
- Thomas W. , Ed. D., NCC,
Executive Director, National Board for Certified Counselors
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How to Divorce with Grace, a Little Class, and a Lot
of Common Sense
Sam Margulies, one of the most experienced
mediators in the country, shares his experience to help men
make this unpleasant process as quick and amicable as possible.
His suggestions on how to manage this turbulent period will
significantly minimize the effects of divorce on the separating
couple, and on any children in the relationship. Taking into
consideration custody issues, and giving specific financial
and legal advice, men will find information about how to choose
a lawyer, how to deal with a pre-nup, and when and when not
to go to trial.
Margulies explores all the elements that
make for a good, fair divorce, as well as the importance of
timing and the decision to get counseling. He also explains
how to avoid a legal mess, the long term implications of alimony
and child support, dividing up property, and how to negotiate
the final agreement.
In A Man's Guide to a Civilized Divorce,
Margulies helps men avoid the treacherous waters of divorce
and illustrates how with the right advice, one can actually
come through the process in pretty good shape. . .
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Working with Divorcing Spouses
Divorce is traditionally seen as the province of lawyers, not therapists. Yet divorcing spouses face dozens of legal and practical choices that can have enduring emotional consequences for the whole family. This unique book shows how therapists can expand the scope of their practices, and make a profound positive difference in the outcome of divorce, by offering support and guidance to their clients who are going through it. Form one of the nation's most prominent divorce mediators, the book provides essential information for helping people manage this stressful transition with minimal damage to their kids, themselves, and their finances.
Sam Margulies clearly explains the legal and procedural aspects of divorce, and discusses the ways legal and emotional processes interact. He highlights critical decisions that can determine whether a divorce is peaceful and constructive, or protracted and bitter. Arguing that the adversarial legal system often causes more harm to families who are already in distress, he emphasizes the clinician's role in promoting negotiation and problem solving.
Topics include how to help clients:
- Understand the nature of a "good divorce;"
Choose the right attorney or mediator;
Balance their own interests with those of their children;
Collaboratively develop custody and parenting plans;
Prepare budgets and deal with property and support issues;
Manage strong feelings that can get in the way of cooperation.
Throughout, case examples and commentary illustrate the complexities of reaching a settlement and establishing a new family structure. User-friendly sidebars provide concrete recommendations for assisting clients every step of the way.
Written in a straightforward, empathic style, this book helps mental health professionals meet a significant, untapped need among the individuals and couples they meet. It is an indispensable resource for clinical psychologists, family therapists, clinical social workers, counselors, and psychiatrists, as well as students and trainees in these fields, and will also be of interest to mediators.
What People are saying about this book -
"Sure to become the standard reference for therapists who work with clients facing divorce. Margulies takes the mystique out of the legal side of divorce and gives therapists everything they need to know to offer wise counsel to their divorcing clients. He encourages therapists to be proactive and to stake a larger claim in helping clients achieve a peaceful, rational divorce. His blow-by-blow description of the anatomy of a destructive divorce, and of how therapists can intervene at each step to lead clienst in a better direction, is pure gold. Buy this book, follow its sage advice, and your skills and your practice will grow."
Richard A. Warshak, PhD,
author of Divorce Poison: Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex
"Drawing on over 25 years of mediation practice, Margulies has provided a very practical and useful book. The many case examples, both positive and negative, reinforce the need for mental health professionals to help families make their way through the painful process of divorce while avoiding the pitfalls of the adversarial legal system. The overall organization is logical, and the book is written in accessible language without resort to complicated labels or arcane arguments. This is an excellent book that is a great addition to the literature."
Hugh McIsaac, MSW, former director, Oregon Family Institute
"Margulies provides the working therapist with an organized, systematic, comprehensive, and pragmatic guide to the many processes and decisions that have an impact on the experience of divorce. This is not a trivial thing; every therapist should be knowledgeable about divorce, yet it is not well understood by many. In addition to practitioners, graduate students and clinical trainees will find this a valuable text."
Robert A. Simon, PhD, private practice, San Diego, California"
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